Showing posts with label peace. Show all posts
Showing posts with label peace. Show all posts

2013/05/14

Rape and harrassment of women in Egypt - is that islam? No, Islam is love, peace and respect for each other!



I would like to approach this horrible thing that is going on in Egypt today. Firstly it is not okay, and secondly it is not okay. Islam forbids Muslim MEN to look at women so how would it justify this?
Thirdly, when there was a time when there were war and there were slaves, authentic Muslims freed the slaves.

Muslims that didn't free the slaves, but rather kept them, did something hated in Islam. Islam doesn't courage slavery, islam wants to abolish slavery. So, why do I talk about it? There was a "hadith" where a person talks about raping women that were capive and the prophet himself allowed it. you could look at it two ways. The first way is the most common way, that of most non-Muslims and many uneducated Muslims.

 The first way is that this gives the right to have slaves and rape them, thus makes it licite to harrass women in Egypt. The second way is the more un-known way, that of authentic Muslims. This way is that the prophet Muhammad Peace be upon him, didn't force people right away to abandon Everything they used to do. Killing small new-born Girls, drinking alcohol, circumcise Girls, have slaves, have more than one wife, etc.

He allowed [read tolerated] the worst things that was very common and un-critizised in society. Step-by-step he then took Everything of this away and left a guide for how you should approach a non-Muslim and how to be tolerate with his or her mis-guidance. Most people don't follow the best way in Life, but we have, as Muslims, character, patience and strenght enough to tolerate it, Before we fix it - which can be changed only with tolerance, love and pshychology.

It is difficult to hear all the faults you do and change all the misbehavior in one day. It has to be made step-by-step. Qur'an is a step-by-step instruction on how to behave towards people and what is the truth about Life and God. It is a guidance and reminder to Muslims.

I haven't experience this problem in Tunisia, where i live right now, but I see misbehavior not only in men but also in women, not only in how they dress but mostly on how they behave. They are not "Clean" and good. They drink alcohol, go out dancing, dress up in sexy clothes, both men and women, they go to coffeehouses to fume chicha and drink coffee. They Think about Money, marriage and having fun.

Almost nobody Thinks about love, respect, and ISLAM. Nobody. Only those with veil and face-veil.

The rest, they talk about Shariah, but many don't even know the background, then pillars of islam, and they don't use Qur'an as a guide to better behavior. They are far away from Islam. Most of the people here don't pray, evey though the family I am married to does (not all of them though). Prayer is a reminder for the people about Death and what comes after Death and that they should behave in the best manners they can. But they don't. And that is frustrating. They get angry at me for follow islam. They don't like islam - BUT they don't KNOW Islam. Children and teenagers are worse than those in Europé or USA.

I don't feel like a part of this soceity I live in. I don't feel connected with the people around me. NObody seems to know anythig about ISlam. They listen to muslic and watches soap-operas but they should instead read the Qur'an or other useful scientific stuff. They don't read, they don't write. They are worse than pigs and dogs. And these are suppposed to be my sisters and Brothers.

I feel ashamed of them. BUT, I have family and friends that ARE Muslims and understand ISLam toto and want to follow ISLA,. Some people understand but don't want to change andd to be a muslim is ALL about change - change of character and become a better person. Islam hates rape. Islam hates people that behave that way, but Islam tells people to be tolerant and to communicate

2013/04/25

Muslims that admire Israel



I came over this article of a Jewish blogger. I support the Jews for their choice of staying in Israel/Palestine. I support the idea that the holocaust is a terrible thing that we shall never forget and I support every Jew in his or her right to be Jew. I admire Jews.

I understand why this Bosnian man, and author, compares himself with Israel. What happened in Bosnia is the same that happened in Germany and Poland. Most people have forgotten about Bosnia, but not the holocaust in Germany.

The people that did this in Germany re now dead, but other people have taken the same idea of building a country with the "best of people" and started to "defend" themselves against people who don't support their ideas. They are "saving the country and the people" and projected that idea in media, so that everybody shall say that it is okay to defend the country.

Was that what happened in Germany?
Did the Germans "defend" the country and their idea of creting a country from the "best of people"? Yes, they defended it against countries that didn't want their ideas. They didn't succeed. They failed in 1946. They have taken new targets (Muslims) and they are good with the rethorics.

Many countries, like Sweden, didn't defend the Jews. Why is that?
Sweden however defended Bosnia with the help of U.N.
Shall Sweden help Israel to defend themselves against Palestine?
 Or shall they leave Israel to defend themselves against the holocaust people in Israel?

Just a question!

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2012/07/29

Why do I pray and do I really have to pray ALL the time?

During the month of Ramadan, the increase of prayer is significant. The mosques all over the world are filled with worshippers. Some of them pray the whole year too, five times a day and more. Some of them pray only four or five times a day and some of them do not pray at all during the rest part of the year. For the latter ones, Ramadan is like Christmas. Prayer is not something you do all the time, it is only a feast that everybody around you does they think. Some of those who did not pray regurarly repent, but most of them continue to live like they did before. Many Muslims do not have taqwah, fear and love for Allah, in their heart, but they are still Muslims. Those are the people who do not pray,  drink alcohol, wear inappropriate clothes etc. 


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The prayer is a type of worship consisting of specific statements and actions. It is begun by pronouncing the greatness of Allah, and is concluded with salutations of peace. The prayer is the essence of Islam. 


To state it simply, prayer must exist, for without it Islam can not stand. The Prophet, upon whom be peace, said, "The head of the matter is Islam, its pillar is the prayer, and the top of its hump is jihad /struggle/ in the way of Allah." It was the first act of worship that was made obligatory by Allah. Its obligation was revealed directly to the Prophet, during his asscension to heaven. Said Anas, "The prayers were made obligatory on the Prophet, upon whom be peace, the night of his ascension to heaven. At first, they were fifty in number, but were reduced several times until they were five. Then it was proclaimed, 'O Muhammad, the order is not changed. These five are (equivalent) to the fifty."


As to the authenticity of the report, it is related by Ahmad, an-Nasa'i and at-Tirmidhi, who said it is sahih. 


Every prophet have worshipped Allah, and even Jesus /Eisa/ peace be upon Him prayed every morning and evening and more. He also prayed like the Muslims, with the forehead on the ground. 


Okay, I understand why I have to pray and where it comes from, but must I persist in praying? 


Salah is the first act that I will be held accountable for. 'Abdullah ibn Qart related that the Messenger of Allah, upon whom be peace, said "The first act that the slave will be accountable for on the Day of Judgement will be prayer. if it is good, then the rest of his acts will be good. And if it is evil, then the rest of his acts will be evil." (Related by at-Tabarani.)


It is the last thing that the Prophet, upon whom be peace, recommended to hos nation before he died saying, "Prayer, prayer and what your right hand possesses." It will be the last thing taken away from the religion. When it perishes, Islam will perish.


The Messenger of Allah, upon whom be peace, said, "If islam were stipped away, piece by piece, people would hold tight to the next one. The first thing taken would be ruling and governance, and the last thing would be prayer." (Related by Ibn Hibban from the hadith of Abu Umamah.) In many verses of the Qur'an, Allah follows up prayer with the remembrance of Allah. "Lo! Worship preserves (one) from lewdness and iniquity, but verily, remembrance of Allah is more important." (al-'Ankabut:45) "He is successful who grows and remembers the name of his Lord, so pray (al-A'la: 14-15; " So Serve Me and establish worship fr My remembrance" (Taha: 14). Sometimes He mentions prayer along with zakah: "Establish prayer and pay zakah" (al-Baqarah: 110). And at times, with patience: "Seek help in patience and prayer" (al-Baqarah: 45), and with Hajj: "So pray unto your Lord and sacrifice" (al-Kauthar: 2); "Say: Lo! My worship and my sacrifice and my living and my dying are for Allah, Lord of the Worlds. He has no partner. This am I commanded, and I am the first of those who surrender (unto Him)" (al-An'am:162-163). At other times, Allah begins the acts of piety with prayers and ends with them, as in the verses about the ma'arij (ascension to heaven): "Successfull indeed are the believers who are humble in their prayers," and the verses, "And who pay heed to their prayers. These are the heirs who will inherit Paradise. There will they abide" (al-Mu'minun: 1-2, 9-11).


I understand that the prayer is obligatory and it is important to pray. But do I really have to pray ALL the time?


The importance of salah is so great that one is ordered to observe it while travelling or not, while one is safe or in fear: "Be guardians of your prayers, and of the mid-most prayer, and stand up with devotion to Allah. And if you go in fear, then (pray) standing or on horseback. When you are safe, remember Allah, as He has taught you that which (heretofore) you knew not" (al-Baqarah: 238-239). Allah explains how to pray during fear, safety or wartime: "And when you are among them and arrange their prayers for them, let only a party of them stand with (to worship) and let them take their arms. then, when they have performed their prostratios, let them fall to the rear and let another party come to pray with you, and let them take their precautions and arms. They who disbelieve long for you to neglect your arms and your baggage, that they may attack. Is is no sin for you to lay aside your arms, if rain impedes you or if you are sick. but take your precautions. Lo! Allah prepares for the disbelievers shamful punishment /in the here-after/. When you have performed your prayer, remember Allah, standing, sitting and reclining. And when you are in safety, observe your prayer properly. Prayer at fixed hours has been enjoined on the believers" (an-Nisa': 102-103)


Allah also strongly warns those who tamper with their prayers or are heedless. Says Allah in the Qur'an, "Now there has succeeded them a later generation who have ruined their prayers and have followed lusts. But they will meet deception" (Maryam: 59); "Ah, woe unto worshippers /Muslims/ who are heedless of their prayers" (al-Ma'un: 4-5).


Prayer is one of the most important acts in Islam, and thus it requires a special guidance. Ibrahim peace be upon Him asked his Lord to give him descendants who abided by their prayers: "My Lord! Cause me and (some) of my offspring to remain constant i prayer. And O our Lords! Accept my supplication" (Ibrahim: 40) 


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2012/07/23

26 tiny wisdoms

TINY WISDOMS



  1. SHARE YOUR BEAUTIFUL SMILE - IT IS SUNNAH
  2. WHATEVER THE PRESENT MOMENT CONTAINS, YOU HAVE CHOSEN IT - OR BETTER, YOU HAVE PRAYED TO ALLAH TO HAVE CHOSEN IT FOR YOU
  3. HAPPINESS DEPENDS UPON OURSELVES AND DEPENDS ON HOW THANKFUL YOU ARE TO YOUR CREATOR
  4. BELIEVE THAT YOU ARE STRONG, AND BELIEVE THAT ALLAH IS STRONGER THAN YOU AND HE IS THE ONE THAT GIVE YOU STRENGTH
  5. PEACE IN YOUR HEART IS ACCEPTING, TO OBEY AND FOLLOW THE GUIDANCE OF ALLAH (QUR'AN AND THE SUNNAH)
  6. IN CHAOS THERE IS NO ORDER. MAN CREATES CHAOS WHILE ALLAH CREATES ONLY ORDER. 
  7. THE GOOD LIFE IS A STATE OF BEING. THE GOOD LIFE IS A DESTINATION, NOT A DIRECTION.
  8. WHEN RELATIONSHIPS ARE MESSY, IT IS BECAUSE IT IS NOT BASED ON THE TRUE LOVE AND SUBMISSION TO ALLAH
  9. SET YOUR MIND FREE, BUT KNOW WHO IS YOUR CREATOR
  10. RENEW YOURSELF. RELEASE THE STUFF YOU ARE HOLDING ON TO. TODAY IS A NEW DAY. IS IT BETTER THAN YESTERDAY?
  11. WHEN YOU JUDGE ME, AS I KNOW YOU WILL, KEEP IN MIND HOW FAR I'VE COME
  12. FOLLOW YOUR GUIDANCE (QUR'AN) AND DON'T BE AFRAID. DOORS WILL BE OPEN WHERE YOU DIDN'T KNOW THEY WERE GOING TO BE
  13. CHOOSE TO ENJOY THE DESTINY DESTINED BY YOUR CREATOR
  14. THIS MOMENT IS A CHANCE TO BE SUBMITTED TO YOUR CREATOR, TO ACCEPT THE TRUTH IS THE ONLY WAY TO BE TRULY FREE
  15. I WISE MAN MAKES HIS OWN DECISIONS, AN IGNORANT MAN FOLLOWS PUBLIC OPINION
  16. IT IS NOT ENOUGH TO BE BUSY - SO ARE THE ANTS. THE QUESTION IS: WHAT ARE WE BUSY ABOUT?
  17. THE MOST POWERFUL WORDS FOR HEALING IS THE WORDS "THANK YOU" AND "ALHAMDOLILLAH"
  18. NURTURE YOUR MIND WITH GREAT THOUGHTS, TO BELIEVE IN ALLAH AND MIRACLES MAKES HEROES
  19. WHEN YOU BELIEVE SOMETHING CAN BE DONE, REALLY BELIEVE, YOUR MIND WILL FIND WAYS TO DO IT
  20. BE GENTLE FIRST WITH YOURSELF IF YOU WANT TO BE GENTLE WITH OTHERS
  21. WHAT YOU DO TODAY IS IMPORTANT BECAUSE YOU DON'T EXCHANGE THIS DAY WITH ANOTHER ONE
  22. STRESS IS CAUSED BY DOING THE WRONG THINGS
  23. THE ONLY WAY TO RECEIVE LOVE IS TO OPEN YOUR HEART TO SUBMISSION TO YOUR CREATOR, THEN HE WILL FILL YOUR HEART WITH IT
  24. LOVE HEALS, BUT WHAT IS LOVE AND WHERE DOES IT COME FROM? GOD!
  25. TO BE GOOD ENOUGH IS NOT THE SAME AS BEING PERFECT AND ONLY ALLAH IS PERFECT
  26. WHO DOES NOT THANK FOR THE LITTLE WILL NOT THANK FOR THE MUCH
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How to be free and happy as a Muslim woman

How can I be free and happy as a Muslim woman?


Everyone that looks at islam from the the outside sees only the Muslim woman in Media. The one who is sad, berupted from her child in an attack from the terrorist-state of Israel. The one in Iraq who is covered up top to toe, looking sad, because everybody in her family has been killed or wounded. That is NOT a free and happy Muslim woman, because the free and happy Muslim women are NEVER in media, except for a few convertites sometimes. So how can you free and happy as a Muslim woman?


1. Notice your tendencies.

You and I, we both have our unique tendencies that distract us from the present moment. I’m a worrier, so I tend to think about the future and try to solve problems before they even happen.
What are your tendencies? What kind of thoughts tend to rob you of the now?
These questions will help you become more mindful about what is going on in your head, which in turn leads to mindfulness.
A few examples of tendencies that are very common are:
  • anxiety
  • worry
  • fear
  • pleasure seeking
A great tip is to write down your tendencies and how they tease you out of the now. Grab a piece of pen and paper, and just do it.

2. Practice non-acceptance.

Once you start becoming mindful of your tendencies, it’s crucial that you JUDGE yourself. Practice non-acceptance and embrace the faith you have.
The tendencies you have are there for a reason. They are signposts pointing to the areas of your life that need attention.
If you’re a chronic worrier, you need to start noticing whenever you begin drifting to the future. Become mindful, observe your thoughts, and breathe.
We believe our thoughts to be the authority on life, but that couldn’t be further from the truth. Our thoughts are not just thoughts. Our thoughts are either from our-selves or from Shaytan. So beware of who is whispering in your ear. Read the Qur'an, say Aoudo billahi minna shaytan irrajim Allah - preserve me from Shaytan. 

3. Focus on your breath and dhikr.

Your breath is a powerful and simple way to anchor yourself in the present moment. Whenever you are having a hard time staying in the now, take deep breaths, and focus on your breathing.
You could even count your breaths or do dhikr and say subhanallah over and over again. Something I like to do is count to four on the inhale and four on the exhale or more often subhanallah, alhamdolillah, la illaha illa Allah, Allaho Akbar, la hawla wa la quatta illah billah.
It focuses the logical part of my brain on counting or remembering (dhikr) and allows me to focus on my breath. After a while I can release the crutch of counting or dhikr and just be.

4. Question your thoughts.

Your thoughts aren’t always right. In fact, they are rarely right, especially if they make you feel bad.
Question your thoughts constantly. When you start to feel negative emotions, use it as a reminder to examine what thoughts are causing the commotion.
Most people walk around all day letting negative thoughts cause negative feelings. We both know that nothing good can come out of this. But if you take your negative thoughts and repent for the things you have done that were against the sunnah of the prophet or the Qur'an, you will start feeling much more free and happy. If you cry, that is a good sign that you are on the right path. 
It takes discipline to be mindful, but the rewards are peace and happiness. Even researchers are discovering the power of emotions. Negative emotions not only have the power to make you feel bad, but can affect your physical health as well.
Whenever a negative thought arises, take a step back, and look at if the thought is true. Perhaps it is your nafs, your soul that is trying to impose something on you that you do not want to do, because of your faith. Perhaps it is a djinn, a shayateen. You have to remember Allah those times and say alhamdolillah and thank him for everything you have understood and everything Allah has done for you. Allah knows what is best for you. Perhaps he is protecting you from something that you do not know yet. Be patient. 

5. Use reminders.

Another great way to stay anchored in the now is to use reminders. The best reminders are those of dhikr and remembrance of the Qur'an and the hadith. If you know some part of the Qur'an by heart, repeat those verse for yourself.
Each time you say alhamdolillah or read Qur'an or do other dhikr, you are reminded of the present moment. Are you in the now, or are you somewhere else? Because it is only in the present you can change your past and your future. 
There are no limits to what you can use as a reminder. If you want to take this even further, you can add a new reminder each week.
Start using internal reminders such as dhikr and so on. If you keep doing this, you will be astonished at the results. You can use external reminders as well, as the people around you. Choose people you admire and want to look like or be like. They will remind you of who you could be and who you should be and who you are becoming. -lk 

6. Be determined.

Increasing the time you spend in the present moment can be a lot of work. If you’re serious about becoming more mindful, you have to be determined.
There will be times when you feel like you want to throw in the towel. You will face challenges, obstacles, and problems.
But if you’re determined, you will get through them. They are nothing but teachers on your path.
When you make becoming more mindful one of your main goals, you simply cannot fail.

7. Don't follow your passion.

I have noticed that the more I follow my passion and my hearts deepest desire, the more I am able to stay in the now but the twist is that if you follow your passion, then you will be misguided as well. Shaytan wants you to follow your passion, and that is his 24/7 work all day long. He wants you to deviate from the right path that God has put forward you. This is one obstacle that he lays out for you. Allah wants you to pass those hinders and continue the road, by only looking at the target - paradise. If you look at things in your way or follow your passion, then you will be misguided. That is more dangerous for you and your soul than following your passion right now. You will feel good for a moment, but for the long-lasting feeling you have to go away from your passions and work for your future goal. 
I enjoy every second of every minute when I’m working on something I love. My heart buzzes with joy and I feel amazing.
Writing is one of my passions. I love helping people improve their life. It makes me come alive, and it keeps me in the present moment. But, it have to be something that is in the path of Allah. Something that helps me not only in this life, but also my soul in the next life. If I do something that is considered haram like guitare-playing, then I will lose everything in the next life. So be careful with what you engage in. 
Inspiration flows effortlessly, and it’s almost like I am channeling someone else as I am writing. Find your passion and go after it, but let it be in lign with Allahs goal for you.
Becoming more mindful is done step-by-step. You do not have to go all-in. You only have to increase the amount of time you spend in the present moment each and every day.
If you do that, it’s impossible for you not to become a mindfulness master.

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