2012/12/12

If a woman needs the attention of other men, then she must work with her relationship at home - her husband must notice her and observe her better.

1: Woman’s Pray at Home is better than Going to Mosque and it makes her happy

Narrated by Ibn ‘Umar: Allah’s Apostle said: “Do not prevent women (wives, mothers, daughters, sisters, etc) from (praying at) mosques. Yet, their prayer at home is better (for them).”

2 : Woman’s Freedom to Go out for their Needs i.e. a woman is free to go out as she wishes, and it makes her happy.

Narrated by ‘Aisha: Allah’s Apostle said: “You (women) have been allowed to go out for your needs.”

3 : Evils behind Unnecessary Socialising of Unveiled Women, i.e. a woman that is veiled and is around other women that are veiled makes her much happier than spending time with unveiled women.

Narrated by Ibn Mas’ud: Allah’s Apostle said: “(Unveiled) woman is a cause of corruption. Once she goes out Satan beautifies her in the eyes of men (to seduce her as well as them). At her home, she is the closest (to the face) of her Lord.”

4 : Woman should take the Permission of Her Husband before Going out. When a woman asks the permission of her husband and letting him know where she is, this give her the attention she needs to feel happy. She wants her husband to think of her all the time while she is gone.

Narrated by Ibn Umar: One of the wives of Umar (bin Al-Khattab) used to offer the Fajr and the ‘Isha’ prayer in congregation in the Mosque. She was asked why she had come out for the prayer as she knew that Umar disliked it, and he has great “ghaira” (self-respect). She replied, “What prevents him from stopping me from this act?” The other replied, “The statement of Allah’s Apostle (p.b.u.h): ‘Do not stop Allah’s women-slave from going to Allah’s Mosques. “

5: Prohibition on Women Regarding Putting Perfumes when Going out. When a woman wants to smell good it is enough taking a bath or a shower. The freshness of her own odour is much greater than any perfume. In putting perfumes she will have attention from women and men, and this will make her happy. But if she does it in public, she will also have the attention of other men that will start thinking about her instead of their own spouses. Does she want that?

Narrated by Abu Mousa Al Ash’ari: Allah’s Apostle said: “If a woman uses perfume and passes the people so that they may get its odour, she is so-and-so, meaning severe remarks. (i.e. about to commit adultery).”

6 : Prohibition on Women regarding showing her Charms when Going out. In showing your charms to men and women you will feel happy, but do it to your own husband. Make him observe you and do comments on your outfits, body and charm. Flirt with your spouse. If you are flirting with other you might gain a little, but the evil that is therein is much greater. YOU will feel better, but the spouse of the man that you are flirting with will NOT.

Narrated by Fudhalah ibn ‘Ubaid: Allah’s Apostle said: “Three persons are doomed …. Among them a woman whose husband is not present and provides for her; yet she shows her charms to (foreign) men.”

7 : Women should not travel without Mahram. To have the attention of your husband while traveling is one of the best keys to a good marriage. Why would you like to travel alone? The attention you need from your husband to make you happy is enough. If you don't feel happy, maybe your husband is not noticing you as he should. Talk to him immediatly.

Narrated by Ibn ‘Abbas: Allah’s Apostle said: “A woman should not travel except with a Dhu-Mahram (her husband or a man with whom that woman cannot marry at all according to the Islamic Jurisprudence).” A man got up and said, “O Allah’s Apostle! I intend to go to such and such an army and my wife wants to perform Hajj.” The Prophet said (to him), “Go along with her (to Hajj).”

8 : Women should have their own Entrance to the Mosque. Every woman is special, so why not give her a special gift - her own entrance to the mosque. This way she will feel important and thought of and she will also have her concentration on the prayers instead of the men and vice versa.

Narrated by Ibn ‘Umar: Allah’s Apostle said: “Should we leave this entrance (at the Mosque, i.e. Al Masjid AL Nabawi ) only for women to enter.” The sub-narrator, Ibn Nafie’ said: “Ibn ‘Umar did not use this entrance (after that) until his death.”

9 : Women should not walk in the middle of the street. Even though walking in the middle of the street makes a woman happy, it is not a good idea. If she wants to have the attention of other men, then it must be something lacking in her relationship - her husband doesn't notice her.

Narrated by Abi Ausaid Al Ansari: While Allah’s Apostle was going out of the mosque he saw all men and women in the road. He told the women: “You should wait behind. You should not walk in the middle of the road.” The narrator said: “women afterwards used to walk so close to the wall so that their dresses often stick to it.”

10 : Women should perform Tawaf without mingling with men. Even though it might seem difficult to not mixing with men today, you should stay as close to your husband or with other women as you can. This will help the men keep their focus on their mission, instead of your beauty. I know that you will feel sad if the men doesn't notice you, but work on your marriage instead.

Narrated by Ibn Jarieh said ‘Ata had told him when Ibn Hashim prevented women from performing Tawaf with men: how could he prevent them while the wives of the Prophet performed Tawaf with men?” I (i.e. Ibn Jarieh) said: before or after (the verse of) hijab (was revealed)? He said: “Upon my life, after hijab.” “How could they intermix with men?” I asked. “They didn’t,” he replied. “’Aisha used to perform Tawaf at a dividing space from men; she didn’t intermingle with them.”
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